Relationships...

With the New Year looming upon us I thought it would be a great time to reflect on the relationships that I have with everyone in my life and evaluate them. I really think it is healthy for people to take a step back from time to time and do this. Afterall, relationships are ever evolving just like the people that are in them.

So here is the summary (not sure how long this is going to be so hang in there):

Signifanct Other: I really need to work on this one. 2009 will be a very interesting year for us because there is something that has been looming over us the past 2 years and the resolution will come in '09. It may wind up that we go on our merry way and live the life that we lead now or it may give us some things that we will really have to pull together and fight to get through. Please cross your fingers for that situation that we will have to deal with. It is a situation we have no control over which really sucks. So hopefully that will help everything else that I need to work on in that relationship.

My Best Friend: I have known this woman for 10 years and I am a better person for it. The only thing that needs to happen in this relationship is that we need to see one another more often. I see her about once every other month. That needs to change because I truly enjoy the time I spend with her.

My Officer Friend: I truly believe this may be the time to let him go and lead his own life. I am not saying that I am going to cut off contact with him entirely, I am just going to be the one that stops saying hello first.

My FB Friend: This is an amazing person with a lot of great things to offer. I have to rebuild this relationship in my life because it went way out of control in 2008. Things have to start at square one and move slowly as we both know each other's boundaries now.

My WED Friend: Another amazing person and I hope this friendship continues to blossom. She has a lot of potential and I hope she realizes that. I am hoping maybe in the nest couple of years that we are able to take a weekend roadtrip or something.

My EXS Friend: I wouldn't call this person a friend. I would call this person a person that keeps tabs on me through outlets. I every once in awhile come across her and I am nice and polite and sometimes engage her in conversation just from pure bordeom or curiosity. I am going to stop doing that and let this person move on with their life and I do hope it is the life that they want to lead.

My Brother: Although he is my brother and I love him I truly feel that our relationship is more than strained at this point. I have made the decision to give him more than enough time to figure out the things he needs to figure out in life and be able to step up to the plate without me telling him that it is time for it to be done.

My Mom: This person is the most amazing person in my life. But I need to learn to be more patient with her. She has had a hard life but has given me everything that she possibly could, which turned out to be WAY more than enough. Patience is the key with this one because one of these days she isn't going to be around anymore.

I do have a goal for the New Year though, I do want to make at least one new friend. I think it is always great to keep expanding the social circle and meeting new people. That way you not only learn about them, I believe you also learn more about yourself.

Math Question

A Backhoe weighing 8 tons is on top of a flatbed trailer and heading east on Interstate 70 near Hays, Kansas.

The extended shovel arm is made of hardened refined steel and the approaching overpass is made of commercial-grade concrete, reinforced with 1 1/2 inch steel rebar spaced at 6 inch intervals in a criss-cross pattern layered at 1 foot vertical spacing..

Solve: When the shovel arm hits the overpass, how fast do you have to be going to slice the bridge in half?? (Assume no effect for headwind and no braking by the driver...)

Extra Credit: Solve for the time and distance required for the entire rig to come to a complete stop after hitting the overpass at the speed calculated above?

Yes, you can neglect friction.







I couldn't solve it either......but who cares; the pictures are great!

How Was Your Christmas and New Year's Resoultions

I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas.

Mine was too good almost. After the mayhem of gifts I looked around and it truly hit him how blessed we are.

It also dawned on my significant other and I that we don't need stuff for a long while! And so our New Year's Resoultion was born. If we don't need it, we don't get it. Sure, I may like a nice sweater, but trust me, I don't need it.

I think that will be a great resolution for us in this economy that we are facing today. Plus, I am kind of excited to see how much money we actually save!!

Christmas & Family

Being in a relationship Christmas can be a touchy subject for some. Where are you going to spend the day at?

My significant other's entire extended family get together on Christmas Eve. I thought that was perfect because that would leave Christmas open to my family because hell, we are spending Christmas Eve with you. Boy was I ever wrong. My significant other's mother about threw a fit when we even suggested that. She went on and on about hoow she would like to have just "her" family for Christmas. When we suggested that we come up a few hours early before everyone went over for the big family gathering that just wouldn't due at all since she and her husband go to church. I do believe God will forgive for spending Christmas Eve with your family instead of in church. Afterall, he did forgive you for having a child out of wedlock and your husband for getting a divorce! But no just couldn't have that. So she suggested to my significant other that we do Christmas Eve with the extended family and stay over at their house and do Christmas morning there. Fine, whatever, I was just tired of the situation.

So there we are at my significant other's parent's house on the blow up mattress in their basement (thankfully it was finished) when my significant other's younger sister comes in at 1am drunk as a skunk with her boyfriend and she starts bouncing up and down on the air mattress (of course her and her boyfriend get the bed upstairs, but that is another story all together). We finally get them to leave us alone and wake up three hours later with our asses on he floor because the air mattress has popped!!! Go figure, she just popped our $150 air mattress! Can you hear the love through the monitor yet? :)

So here it is...Christmas morning. We get up at 9am and have to wake everyone else up to get this show on the road because we want to leave by 10:30 because we still have to make Christmas "lunch" for my family. So right around 10am everything is opened, etc. and we are told we need to get going so they can get redy to go over to my significant other's grandfather's house!!! Excuse me but WTF! You throw a fit that you HAVE to have "your" family for their own Christmas and now you are kicking us out an hour after we wake up. Yes, it did work out in my favor but that is just insane.

So this Christmas the line has been drawn, we are not doing that anymore. Instead my significant other's parent's Christmas will be the weekend before Christmas, their extended family thing on Christmas Eve (which I am opting out of going and that is another story all in itself) and than our Christmas on Christmas!

So, how do you spilt up your holiday season if you are in a relationship???