Relationships...

With the New Year looming upon us I thought it would be a great time to reflect on the relationships that I have with everyone in my life and evaluate them. I really think it is healthy for people to take a step back from time to time and do this. Afterall, relationships are ever evolving just like the people that are in them.

So here is the summary (not sure how long this is going to be so hang in there):

Signifanct Other: I really need to work on this one. 2009 will be a very interesting year for us because there is something that has been looming over us the past 2 years and the resolution will come in '09. It may wind up that we go on our merry way and live the life that we lead now or it may give us some things that we will really have to pull together and fight to get through. Please cross your fingers for that situation that we will have to deal with. It is a situation we have no control over which really sucks. So hopefully that will help everything else that I need to work on in that relationship.

My Best Friend: I have known this woman for 10 years and I am a better person for it. The only thing that needs to happen in this relationship is that we need to see one another more often. I see her about once every other month. That needs to change because I truly enjoy the time I spend with her.

My Officer Friend: I truly believe this may be the time to let him go and lead his own life. I am not saying that I am going to cut off contact with him entirely, I am just going to be the one that stops saying hello first.

My FB Friend: This is an amazing person with a lot of great things to offer. I have to rebuild this relationship in my life because it went way out of control in 2008. Things have to start at square one and move slowly as we both know each other's boundaries now.

My WED Friend: Another amazing person and I hope this friendship continues to blossom. She has a lot of potential and I hope she realizes that. I am hoping maybe in the nest couple of years that we are able to take a weekend roadtrip or something.

My EXS Friend: I wouldn't call this person a friend. I would call this person a person that keeps tabs on me through outlets. I every once in awhile come across her and I am nice and polite and sometimes engage her in conversation just from pure bordeom or curiosity. I am going to stop doing that and let this person move on with their life and I do hope it is the life that they want to lead.

My Brother: Although he is my brother and I love him I truly feel that our relationship is more than strained at this point. I have made the decision to give him more than enough time to figure out the things he needs to figure out in life and be able to step up to the plate without me telling him that it is time for it to be done.

My Mom: This person is the most amazing person in my life. But I need to learn to be more patient with her. She has had a hard life but has given me everything that she possibly could, which turned out to be WAY more than enough. Patience is the key with this one because one of these days she isn't going to be around anymore.

I do have a goal for the New Year though, I do want to make at least one new friend. I think it is always great to keep expanding the social circle and meeting new people. That way you not only learn about them, I believe you also learn more about yourself.