Some People Just Refuse To Change

My significant other's best friend really needs to wake up and smell the roses.

He has been in a relationship for several years. Him and his girl were actually engaged at one point. They have had ups and downs throughout their relationship and honestly who hasn't. But he keeps waiting for he to change. And we are not talking minor change here we are talking overhauling her life.

I just don't get it. They have broken up many times and he keeps going back to her saying that he owes her that because she stayed with him for so long. BUT he wants her to change. Shaking head.

I have had many conversations with him in regards to this. She is in her 40's and as many times as she has tried to "change" she never really does. She may put in a front for a couple weeks but that is about all.

What changes does he want her to make? It all basically has to do with growing up. Here are a few just for giggles:

~ Get a full time stable job.
~ Pay your bills on time (her car has been repoed twice now)
~ If you dirty a dish, put it in the dishwasher
~ Stop using cocaine (this one he thinks she has kicked)
~ Quit supporting your dead beat son (who is of age)
~ Do something around the house besides dirty it

So basically this woman is lazy. She has a son who is in trouble all the time who turned 18 last year and she keeps taking him back into this guy's house when he gets in trouble with the law. And he brings with him all the problems that she has.

There was a time I felt sorry for this guy, but I was done with that a LONG time ago because over the three years that I have known him they have broken up 3 times, she has moved out twice and moved back in twice. She is usually fine on her own until she realizes that she doesn't have enough money to maintain her lifestyle. Than she comes crawling back telling this guy she will change, etc. and nothing ever coems through.

Now I just laugh at the situation because neither person will do anything about it. But yet, he keeps on complaining. I finally told him that I don't want to hear anything about it because nothing is ever going to change unless he MAKES it change, which means breaking it off 100% with her and not letting her come back into his life. She is in her 40's and honestly, this woman will never change.